8 Steps for Homeschooling Your Child

8 Steps for Homeschooling Your Child

A lot of parents cannot afford sending their child to public or private schools. Sometimes it’s monetary challenges while at other times, religious, racial and social differences come in the way. At the same time, many parents are new to homeschooling.

Now that you have a good idea that homeschooling is a plausible option, you need to do enough research on the subject. Only then, you will be capable of homeschooling your child the best.

In this article, we are going to explain a step-by-step guide of setting up an effective homeschool and list down how homeschooling has evolved to better over public schooling. Read on!

The Steps to Successful Homeschooling

Here’s the ultimate guide to homeschooling every parent needs to go through:

1.      Look into Your State’s Legal Requirements

Homeschooling is regulated by state, not by federal laws. Thus, legal requirements vary from state to state. Some states regard private schools and homeschools as the same while others have a complete legal guideline for teaching your children at home.

States like New York require you to go through a legal paperwork before starting with a homeschool. Therefore, it is important to consider legal requirements to make sure you effectively comply. It has a huge effect on your child’s higher education and career.

2.      Join a Community of Homeschoolers

There are a number of online communities of homeschoolers where you can get the expert advice. Also, you can find out what education methods and techniques other parents have adopted for their child’s homeschooling.

Other than online communities, there are in-person homeschooling communities as well that allow you to take your children on field trips, conduct outdoor activities and cut out the isolation factor from homeschooling.

3.      Explore Effective Homeschooling Styles

Now, there are different homeschooling styles and methods that you can use to shape your homeschooling approach. Remember that your home is nothing like a traditional school , so you need not develop the same structure or environment.

In fact, you can go for a style that creates a great learning environment and is flexible as per your child’s aptitude as well as the available space at home. Some popular homeschooling styles include unschooling, Charlotte Mason, Moore Formula, Waldorf, Unit Studies, etc. 

4.      Decide Your Homeschool Curriculum

Choosing a homeschool curriculum is the most challenging step. Here, you have to make sure that your child does not feel the pressure or burden of a traditional school whilst getting to cover all the concepts of the respective stage.

There are various educational centers, institutes and even state conventions that describe what homeschool curriculum should be based on.

Homeschool curriculum is different from textbooks and workbooks. It usually includes individual approaches based on the child’s interests and aptitude.

5.      Create Your Learning Space

Studies reveal that creating a specific learning space develops the right educational attitude. Your child should have a confined learning space so that when it’s time to study, he knows where to sit and find all the resources. It helps in organized homeschooling.

It is good to have significant resources at hand such as blackboard, stationary, a computer, etc. Getting storage cabinets and bookshelves largely assists in creating a learning environment.

6.      Establish the Right Homeschooling Goals

Without the right homeschooling goals, it all goes to vain. You need to establish certain short-term and long-term goals such as what will be child covering in a month, how many field trips the child should take every year, etc.

Remember that homeschooling is not confined to textbook learning but includes all the aspects of physical growth and mental nourishment. Also, your child needs to be familiar with the concepts of social interaction, engagement, communication, etc.

It is highly significant in making sure your child does not turn out to be an introvert but has a great deal of confidence to move out in the public and interact with other people.

7.      Develop a Schedule

Now that you have decided your curriculum and set some goals, it is time to incorporate them in a plan. Developing a schedule helps stick to your plan and achieve your goals.

A good schedule allows breaking up different tasks and activities into daily, weekly and monthly learning. Also, it is flexible enough to adapt and change as per your child’s progress.

8.      Do Not be Rigid!

The key to successful homeschooling is to be flexible and adaptable. If you are too rigid, your child might feel isolated.

Play with different styles before committing to one and buying an expensive curriculum. Homeschooling, if started with experimentation, reaps sweet fruits.

Follow this step-by-step guide and you are good to go!

Homeschooling vs. Public Schooling

Now, there are many advantages of homeschooling over public schooling. Here go the most effective ones:

No Additional Expenses

Admitting your child to a public school comes with many additional expenses such as school uniform, security fee, extracurricular activities, fundraisers etc. It turns out to be a great burden on parents’ pockets.

Increased Bullying and Bad Influence Cases

Today, schools are all about bullying and adopting bad influence. At home, you can save your child from bullying and damaged self-esteem. Having them grow under good influence and learn moral, religious and social values.

Tailored to Child’s Strengths

At public schools, your child might often lacg behind whereas, at home, you can shape the curriculum and activities according to your child’s strengths and interests. This encourages your child to do the best that he can in his area of interest. There’s no peer pressure to face.

Higher Flexibility

Homeschooling is exceptionally flexible. You can set goals and schedule in a way that they align to your way of living, travel needs, availability, etc. 

Final Words

Homeschooling is becoming increasingly popular. Parents who are qualified enough to teach their children at home are now preferring homeschooling over public schooling. It gives them the control over costs, timing, environment and curriculum, resulting in an easier life. Also, it makes sure the child learns under good parental influence as per his interests and aptitude.


Once upon a time, all children were homeschooled. But around 150 years ago states started making public school mandatory and homeschooling eventually became illegal. It wasn’t until the 90’s that all states made it legal again. Today, with more than 2 million homeschoolers making up 4% of the school-aged population, it’s the fastest growing form of education in the country.


  • 1840: 55% of children attended primary school while the rest were educated in the home or by tutors.
  • 1852: The “Common School” model became popular and Massachusetts became the first state to pass compulsory attendance law. Once compulsory attendance laws became effective, America eventually relied entirely on public and private schools for educating children. Homeschooling then became something only practiced by extremely rural families, and within Amish communities.
  • 1870: All states had free primary schools.
  • 1900: 34 states had compulsory attendance laws.
  • 1910: 72% of children attended primary school.
  • 1960: Educational reformers started questioning public schooling’s methods and results.
  • 1977: “Growing Without Schooling” magazine was published, marking a shift from trying to reform public education to abandoning it.
  • 1980: Homeschooling was illegal in 30 states.
  • 1983: Changes in tax law forced many Christian Schools to close which led to soaring homeschooling rates.
  • 1993: Homeschooling become legal in all 50 states and saw annual growth rates of 15-20%.


32 states and Washington D.C. offer Virtual Public Schools – free education over the internet to homeschooling families: Alaska, Arizona, Arkansas, California, Colorado, District of Columbia (DC), Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Nevada, New Mexico, New Jersey, Ohio, Oklahoma, Oregon, Pennsylvania, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Virginia, Washington, Wisconsin, Wyoming.

4 States offer tax credits for homeschooling families: Iowa, Arizona, Minnesota, Illinois.

10 States don’t require notification of homeschooling: Alaska, Idaho, Texas, Oklahoma, Missouri, Illinois, Indiana, Michigan, New Jersey, Connecticut.

14 States require notification of homeschooling: California, Nevada, Arizona, Utah, New Mexico, Wyoming, Montana, Nebraska, Kansas, Mississippi, Alabama, Kentucky, Wisconsin, Delaware.

20 States and D.C. require notification of homeschooling, test scores and/or professional evaluation of students: Washington, Oregon, Colorado, South Dakota, Minnesota, Iowa, Arkansas, Louisiana, Florida, Georgia, South Carolina, North Carolina, Tennessee, Virginia, West Virginia, Ohio, Maryland, New Hampshire, Maine, D.C., Hawaii.

6 States require notification of homeschooling, test scores and/or professional evaluation of students; plus other requirements like curriculum approval, parent qualification, home visits by state officials: North Dakota, Pennsylvania, New York, Massachusetts, Vermont, Rode Island.

No Federal help is available to homeschooling families yet. The IRS says that homeschooling costs “are nondeductible personal, living, or family expenses.”


Home schooling is the fastest growing form of education in the country.

  • 1999: 850,000 homeschoolers (1.7% of the school-aged population)
  • 2003: 1.1 million homeschoolers (2.2% of the school-aged population)
  • 2007: 1.5 million homeschoolers (2.9% of the school-aged population)
  • 2010: 2.04 million homeschoolers (4% of the school-aged population)
  • From 2007- 2009 home-schoolers increased ate a rate of 7%/year
  • From 2007- 2009 public-schoolers increased at a rate of 1%/year


Education Level of Homeschooling Parents (Fathers/Mothers)

  • No High School Degree: 1.4% / 0.5%
  • High School Degree: 8.4% / 7.5%
  • Some College: 15.4% / 18.7%
  • Associate’s Degree: 8.6% / 10.8%
  • Bachelor’s Degree: 37.6% / 48.4%
  • Master’s Degree: 20% / 11.6%
  • Doctorate Degree: 8.7% / 2.5%

Number of children in homeschooled families:

  • 1 child: 6.6%
  • 2 children: 25.3%
  • 3 children: 26%
  • 4-6 children: 35.9%
  • 7+ children: 6.3%

Most important reasons parents say they homeschool their kids (students, ages 5-17, 2007):

  • 36 %: To provide religious or moral instruction
  • 21 % : Concern about the environment of other schools: safety, drugs, and negative peer pressure
  • 17 %: Dissatisfaction with academic instruction at other schools
  • 14 %: Unique Family Situation such as time, finances, travel, and distances
  • 7 %: Nontraditional approach to child’s education
  • 4 %: Child has other special needs
  • 2%: Child has a physical or mental health problem


Standardized achievement tests: On average, homeschoolers rank in at the 87th percentile. (Note: The 87th percentile is not the test score. It is the percent of students that scored lower… so, only 13% of students scored higher.)

  • Boys: 87th
  • Girls: 88th
  • Reading: 89th
  • Language: 84th
  • Math: 84th
  • Science: 86th
  • Social Studies: 84th
  • Core: 88th
  • Parents income <$35,000: 85th
  • Parents income $35,000-$70,000: 86th
  • Parents income >$70,000: 89th
  • Parents spend <$600/child/year: 86th
  • Parents spend >$600/child/year: 89th
  • Neither parent has a college degree: 83rd
  • Either parent has a college degree: 86th
  • Both parents have college degrees: 90th
  • Neither parent has a teaching certificate: 87th
  • Either Parent has a teaching certificate: 88th

Grade Placement compared to public schools:

  • Behind: 5.4%
  • On track: 69.8%
  • Ahead: 24.5%


Homeschooled Adults’ Perception of Homeschooling

“I’m glad that I was homeschooled”

  • Strongly Agree: 75.8%
  • Agree: 19.4%
  • Neither: 2.8%
  • Disagree: 1.4%
  • Strongly Disagree: 0.6%

“Homeschool gave me an advantage as an adult”

  • Strongly Agree: 66.0%
  • Agree: 26.4%
  • Neither: 5.7%
  • Disagree: 1.5%
  • Strongly Disagree: 0.4%

“Homeschool limited my educational opportunities”

  • Strongly Agree: 1.0%
  • Agree: 4.2%
  • Neither: 6.6%
  • Disagree: 29.2%
  • Strongly Disagree: 58.9%

“Homeschool limited my career choices”

  • Strongly Agree: 0.9%
  • Agree: 1.2%
  • Neither: 3.9%
  • Disagree: 18.8%
  • Strongly Disagree: 75.3%

“I would homeschool my own children”

  • Strongly Agree: 54.8%
  • Agree: 27.3%
  • Neither: 13.5%
  • Disagree: 2.8%
  • Strongly Disagree: 1.6%

Homeschooled / General Population

  • Participate in an ongoing community service activity (71% / 37%)
  • Consider politics and government too complicated to understand (4.2% / 35%)
  • Read a book in the past six months? (98.5% / 69%)
  • Continue on to college (74% / 49%)

“Taken all together, how would you say things are these days–would you say that you are …”

  • Very happy (58.9% / 27.6)
  • Pretty happy (39.1% / 63%)
  • Not too happy (2% / 9.4)


Average homeschool family spends $500/child/year.

The average public school spends $9,963 per child per year, not including capital expenditures or research and development

this post was taken from https://www.topmastersineducation.com/homeschooled/

a short comparison between Homeschool Vs Public school

Schooling MethodProsCons
Public schoolAllows both parents to work away from home.Parents yield much of their daily influence to the public school system.
Free by Law
Pressure to accept many additional expenses, such as premium school supplies, name-brand clothing, fundraisers, pay-to-play events and extracurricular activities.
comprehensive curriculum
Instruction aimed at students of average intelligence. Not much flexibility for students to learn at their own pace. Above-average students are underchallenged, while below-average students sometimes “fall through the cracks.”
Your child’s care and education is overseen by trained professionals who have undergone background checks.Some teachers lack passion, talent, genuine care or empathy.
Many opportunities to play with other children.Spends much time with peers of the same age. Limited opportunities for cross-generational interaction. May be bullied and badly influenced by other children. School shootings are statistically unlikely, but it still worries you.

Pressure to teach for the test.
Parents have great influence  over their child’s education, including the selection of materials.
Requires considerable effort and time investment by parents.
You control the complexity and cost of curriculum and materials.
Packaged curriculum. School supplies and extracurricular activities can be expensive.
Studies can be tailored to individual strengths, accelerating according to ability. Students with learning difficulties can get more individualized attention.Studies may not be well-rounded if parents shy away from subjects such as foreign language, higher mathematics and science.

Your children are safer in your care. You have greater influence over the friendships they make. More opportunities for interacting with adults.

Families must be deliberate about finding opportunities for socialization, particularly in rural areas without a nearby homeschool group.

Testing is optional.

Homeschooled: How American Homeschoolers Measure Up
Source: TopMastersInEducation.com


What is Remote Learning

Excerpted from  “The Just in Time Playbook for Remote Learning” by Dr. Kecia Ray

Remote Learning definitions

Remote learning provides an opportunity for students and teachers to
stay connected and engaged with the content while working from their
. Opportunities for remote learning are typically linked to emergency
situations that pose a threat to student safety.

Remote learning is something a school district should be able to switch off and on
based on need; however, the efficiency of transitioning to remote learning
is dependent on preparedness, technology tools, and overall student
support infrastructure.

It is different from virtual school or virtual learning
programs that typically have gone through an official process of establishing
a school, adopting an online curriculum, and creating a dedicated structure
to support students enrolled in the school.

however, you can choose to homeschool regarding the external circumstances
Transitioning to remote learning can keep students on track so that
when they return to physical school environments, they will not need to
complete a lot of make-up work to be ready for any scheduled assessments.

Many of the requirements in a traditional classroom environment will be in
play for remote learning environments, and the goal is to adhere to as many
state and local requirements as possible.

It is important to note that in remote learning environments, versus
virtual learning environments, the learner and teacher are not accustomed
to being apart during instruction. This may pose a challenge to both
teacher and learner that can be accommodated for through specific support

Why Remote Learning

one of the main reasons can be that

The officially identified pandemic of COVID-19 is impacting more than
376 million students worldwide (see UNESCO’s website for updated reports of school closures).

The number of students that will experience education
disruption grows daily. This outbreak comes to the U.S. at the onset of state assessments and
spring breaks, which means state departments of education will need to determine what guidance to offer districts related to state testing and attendance

Another reason is is that you are simply not happy with the schools in your local area

Structure of remote Learning

The most significant elements of this type of learning include time, communication, technology, and lesson design. Clearly defining these elements up front helps to remove distractions from learning.


Time is the first thing schools need to consider because it sets expectations and boundaries for both students and teachers, particularly, when to start the school day and how many hours it will entail. 

First and foremost, teachers should define a set time period throughout the day when they will be available to students. Make sure these ‘office hours’ are clearly communicated so students know when the teacher will be available to respond promptly to needs. Sometimes, teachers will want to connect in real time, or synchronously, with a student or groups of students. These types of connections can be done through videoconferencing, through chat, or by phone. Apps such as FaceTime, Google Hangouts, Skype, Microsoft Teams or Zoom, or What’s App, can be used to provide these synchronous connections. 

Students should be instructed on how much time they need to spend working on assignments and other activities outlined in lessons. If there is an expectation for students to check in regularly, then that needs to be communicated as well. 

The ‘office hour’ concept can also be used so that multiple students can communicate in chat sessions simultaneously, enabling more touch points between the teacher and students. 

because your kids are going to spend even more time online is super important to keep them as safe as possible, sadly not everyone on the internet has good intentions, and its super important to add filters to keep them as safe as possible

you can check out Qustodio and see if it fits your parental app filtering needs


Communication is another aspect that needs to be clearly determined at the onset of the remote learning experience. Students should know exactly how and when they are expected to communicate with the teacher. Is email preferred to an online chat? Should all communication be within the designated technology tool? What if that tool is not working? What is the backup plan for communication? Each of these questions should be answered in an introduction document that sets all of the expectations. 

In addition to how the student should communicate with the teacher, expectations should also be set for how and how frequently the teacher will be in touch with the student. For example, it should be made clear that assignments that would typically have a one- to two-day turnaround in a traditional classroom will have the same turnaround in a remote learning environment. 

Teachers should be provided 24 to 72 hours to complete grading of assignments, depending on length and complexity. When assignments are returned to students, comments and notes explaining the grading should be included, ideally with more detail than usual since there may be no immediate opportunity for a student to ask questions upon receiving the grade. The more feedback that can be provided during the grading process, the better the student feels about the work and more confident they feel about continuing with future assignments. 


Technology can vary in impromptu remote learning environments. If schools allow students to take home devices, then the students should be ready to learn. Some schools do not have devices to send home, so students must find ways to access materials provided through technology systems. 

Districts that do not typically engage in remote learning or virtual learning in their traditional calendars need to provide alternative ways for students to receive and return assignments. For example, one technology that has stood the test of time is paper. Sending packets of materials home with a stamped and addressed return envelope (either addressed to the school, the teacher or other location), is one way to continue schooling during a crisis situation. (See more in the Low Tech Solutions section.) 

Schools need to provide very clear information on how to access any online platform during remote learning, especially if students, parents and teachers are not accustomed to using such tools on a regular basis. Technical support also needs to be provided throughout the district and not be the responsibility of the teacher, who will have enough to keep up with in the remote learning environment. Clear information describing steps for troubleshooting and contact information for additional technical support should be easily available for everyone. 

Remote Learning is also called Distance Education

Distance education also called distance learning is the education of students who may not always be physically present at a school. Traditionally, this usually involved correspondence courses wherein the student corresponded with the school via post. Today, it involves online education.

A distance learning program can be completely distance learning, or a combination of distance learning and traditional classroom instruction (called hybrid[3] or blended).[4]

Massive open online courses (MOOCs), offering large-scale interactive participation and open access through the World Wide Web or other network technologies, are recent educational modes in distance education.[1] A number of other terms (distributed learning, e-learning, m-learning, online learning, virtual classroom etc.) are used roughly synonymously with distance education.

The widespread use of computers and the internet have made distance learning easier and faster, and today virtual schools and virtual universities deliver full curricula online.[56] The capacity of the Internet to support voice, video, text, and immersion teaching methods made earlier distinct forms of telephone, videoconferencing, radio, television, and text-based education somewhat redundant. However, many of the techniques developed and lessons learned with earlier media are used in Internet delivery.

Coronavirus and Protecting Your Kids from Germs in General

Originally from https://momtinilounge.com/coronavirus-and-protecting-your-kids-from-germs-in-general/

It seems like an unusually rough flu season, even for people who got the shot. And the double whammy of the Coronavirus has many of us on edge. The CDC has a robust collection of up-to-the-minute information and tips here.

When I first wrote this post, I think we were all in a zone of disbelief and inclined to believe what would soon become fiction. It’s “there, not here.” It’s “happening to old people with health conditions, not young people.” It’s everywhere, happening to anyone. In a matter of days, this situation turned very serious, very scary, and has most of us grounded at home. School is out for many communities for a TBD amount of time. Non-essential businesses have been asked to close. Who could have imagined a time when we would only be allowed to leave home for the grocery store or doctor?

It’s a good reminder of the importance of hand washing and why we should avoid touching our face. Leave it to Ellen DeGeneres to provide some useful information infused with a great sense of humor at a very stressful time in our lives. This is clearly no joking matter, and I’m not bringing light to the seriousness of the situation, trust me. But if we can learn some new safety habits that will become our new normal for a while and smile along the way, maybe we’ll be part of fighting this battle one step at a time.

Stay safe, and … wash your hands!

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What to do When Someone in Your House Has COVID

Originally from https://upliftingfamilies.com/what-to-do-someone-has-covid/

Even as the lockdowns across the country are starting to decrease, the reality is that the spread of COVID-19 has impacted tens of thousands of families. If this modern-day scourge has not visited you and your family, then consider yourself lucky. However, this does not mean that it will not happen in the future, and with that in mind, here are some tips on what to do when someone in your house has COVID.

It does not matter if you or someone you love has a mild or severe case of COVID; the mere presence of the disease needs to be taken seriously. This is not only because of the ease in which the virus can spread but also because it is new to humans. As such, doctors are still working on treatment options as well as the much hoped for vaccine.

Another reason for taking the virus seriously is that some studies have found that it can spread quickly between family members or others who live in close quarters.

This is even the case when someone displays mild symptoms of the disease. The best advice when someone is showing symptoms is to act as if your loved one and the rest of your family has been exposed to the virus.

Remember, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Even if you cannot get tested, you will want to take steps to keep everyone safe.

This includes separating family members who might be sick, taking special care to any dishes, cups, and laundry items. Also, you will want to think about how to handle bathroom arrangements.

Yes, this can get complicated, but there is a need to keep everyone apart as much as possible if COVID visits your home.

While the Washington State Department of Health, recommends that family members without symptoms should stay in another part of the home or a different place of residence, this might not always be possible. As such, you will want to take every step you can to keep family members separated – especially if you are living in an apartment.

This can happen by setting aside one part of the apartment just for those with symptoms and by making sure precautions are taken when family members come in contact.

If sharing the bathroom is a challenge, then you want to make sure it is cleared every time that someone uses it. It does not matter if the person using the bathroom is suspected of having COVID or not; the risk that the disease can be passed on is too high and should be taken seriously.

When cleaning, the ideal mix is nine-parts water to one-part bleach as this will help to clean and disinfect all surfaces. Take this advice seriously as some studies have shown that the disease can be spread by fecal matter and other bodily fluids.

Also, if you have a pet, then you will want to keep the pet away from those suspected of having the disease. While the odds of your cat or dog contracting COVID are low, there have been cases of human-to-animal transmission as such. It is better to be safe than sorry.

In terms of treatment, Dr. Michael Hochman, M.D., associate professor of medicine at USC’s Keck School of Medicine, notes that you will want to give any suspected family member plenty of fluids and rest. Also, cold and flu medications can be useful. However, if symptoms get worse, then you will want to seek medical attention immediately.

This is because over-the-counter medications might not be effective against COVID, and some do have side effects if not safely used. Also, you might want to consider using a neti pot to help clear out the patient’s nasal passages. Regular temperature checks can also be useful as it will help to see if the disease is worsening.

For caregivers, you will always want to wear a mask and might even want to consider a face shield..

The reason for wearing protective equipment, even cloth masks, is because the disease is primarily spread through the mucus membranes. Also, you will want to wear gloves whenever coming in contact with the patient or with something they have touched, such as dishes and glasses.

Remember to clean everything thoroughly, if possible, use a dishwasher, and sanitize all items after use. Also, remember to properly handle protective items when taking them off to limit the spread of the virus.

4 Activities to Get Your Kids Moving

Originally from https://upliftingfamilies.com/4-activities-to-get-your-kids-moving/

Keeping up with an energetic child is not always easy, especially if you don’t share the same level of energy with your children. The way to balance things out is by allowing children to remain active and engaged in a fun way.

There are actually a lot of physical activities that can help your kids stay active and keep them moving, all while allowing you to keep up with them at all times. In this article, we are going to take a look at some activities to get your kids moving.

Afterschool Activities

If your children’s school has afterschool activities, now is the perfect time to consider them. There are plenty of programs to choose from, depending on the schools your kids go to, with some being more physical than others.

Well-known programs like Skillastics group activities are perfect for keeping your kids moving in a healthy and productive way. Your children will not only remain active but also have the opportunity to develop certain skills while interacting with their friends.

Long Walks

Physical activity doesn’t have to be a high-intensity one. In fact, a lot of low-intensity physical activities are fun to share with the kids. One example is taking a long walk around the neighborhood. It is the kind of activity that you can do together without complex preparations.

If you have dogs, walking the dog as a routine is also a good idea. The kids can learn about their environment and taking responsibility while you share a fun activity together. A 30-minute walk is often more than enough to bring your children’s energy level down.

Simple Sports

We often associate sports with additional equipment and a specialized field, when in reality, there are a lot of sports you can do easily. Playing catch, for instance, can be done with a rubber ball in the backyard.

The same is true with other sports like basketball and soccer. With the latter, you can simply create a small goalpost and have fun trying to block your children from scoring a goal. It is certainly fun enough to keep them entertained for a long time.

Dance Party

Another exciting thing to do to keep the children moving is dancing. This too is a simple thing to do, plus there are multiple ways to make it more fun. For instance, you can turn off the light and put on some disco lighting to set the mood.

There are video games based on dancing too, which makes this particular activity easier to adopt. Put on some music and have a lot of fun dancing with the children. Once again, a 30-to-60-minute session is more than enough to bring the energy level of your children down.

As an added bonus, you can turn dancing into an entire party. Invite other children and let your kids have a lot of fun hosting their own dance party.

As you can see, these activities are easy to try. They are certainly fun enough to keep your kids moving and allow them to stay active – and healthy – for even longer.

The Gift Of Independence

Originally from http://joanigeltman.blogspot.com/2019/09/the-gift-of-independence.html

I found this wonderful comparison on facebook. I am older than almost everyone being a baby boomer so the “moms then”  was my absolute childhood! Probably not for most of you Gen Xers, but  you probably did not grow up with the moms now column either. I’m guessing you grew up with parents somewhere in the middle. Anyway have a good laugh!

I know the world can be a scary place. God knows we are bombarded with it these days by bombings, and opiod addiction and vaping and politics and climate change and scary stories about teens.  These are crazy making for parents. It makes us want to hold tight to our kids and keep them as safe as we can. Sometimes that holding tight for safety has mixed messages. Often parents say no to giving their teens the independence to safely navigate the world that will soon become their life when they leave home for college. But they give them access to drugs and alcohol in the house and technology that can potentially create addiction, contact with questionable people and way way too much access to cell phones, media and distractions with no supervision. But when their teen asks to take public transportation to go into “the city” parents quake in their shoes and say no.

I am always so shocked when I ask teens to describe their “world” to me. It is a world of being chauffeured by parents or UBER to friends houses, activities and parties because many teens now show little interest in getting their license. It is a world of houses and hangouts that never change from week to week. Rarely do I hear teens talk about getting on the “T” to go to “the city.” I have talked to a lot of college students who go to schools on suburban campuses who never leave their campus to investigate the wealth of culture and energy that a “city” can provide, even when colleges provide shuttles to the closest public transportation. Somewhere along the way we have scared our teens.
Taking risks, safe ones mean doing something new and challenging. It means figuring out directions, destinations, and making decisions without knowing the outcome. When is the last time your teen came to you for permission to do something like that. When my daughter was a senior in high school her group of friends wanted to go on a vacation after graduation together. My daughter asked if she could go. My answer was if you have the money and the will, go for it. I remember many of the parents wanted and did take over the planning of the trip for these girls, suggesting destinations, getting them the best price, finding the best airline etc. There was even a “parent meeting” to discuss the trip. Always the rebel, I refused to go. What is the point of an adventure, or can you even call it an adventure, if mommy and daddy do all the planning.What lessons are learned?
I remember my own post-high school graduation vacation I took with my 8 best friends. The planning was actually more fun than the week we had in Hyannis. Looking for the cottage, doing comparative pricing, and deciding which cape destination had the potential for the most boys took months of planning. And when we opened the door that June day to our very own cottage rental we felt euphoric. We had planned and talked and argued for months, and now here we were.

Open the door and send them out to play! Encourage your teen to take safe risks, to venture out of their comfort zone without your help. The confidence and competence they will feel and take away is worth it….for both of you.

PS If you work for a large company or corporation perhaps you’d like to talk to your HR or work/family department and investigate whether they would like me to come and do one of my lunchtime seminars for their employees. Here are some of the seminars I offer to companies!!
Understanding Your Child’s Temperament and Personality
Strategies For The Future
Is your child:
·      The adventurer
·      The lawyer
·      The child who always says no
·      The anxious/shy child
·      A combination of all 4
 This one-hour seminar describes these personality styles and gives parents the strategies to bring out the best in their child both in the present and implications for their development from childhood through their teen years.
 Audience: Parents of all ages
Sibling Rivalry 
Learn the development impact of age differences in sibling relationships and rivalry
When to intervene and when to let nature take its course
Strategies for healthy sibling relationships
Audience: all ages
Positive Discipline
·      Use the Power of Understanding to get your children ready to listen and accept.
·      Learn when and how to use “I get it” moments. No more arguing, no more fighting!
·      Learn how to be clear and consistent and manage your own frustration.
·      Learn how to set a limit and make it stick
·      Learn to Use a variety of techniques to manage troublesome behaviors.
Audience: all ages
Joani’s Top Ten Parenting Tips 
The secret to parenting is to keep it simple. Learn 10 simple, concrete practical tips useful in those daily moments of stress as a parent when you wish you had the “right thing to do and the right thing to say!
Audience: All ages
Adolescent Psychology: The Parent Version 
·      Learn how the brain affects your teen’s behavior. It’s the battle of the thinking brain VS the feeling brain.
  • Learn Effective strategies for arguing-The Four Ways Of Fighting.
  • Develop effective strategies for keeping your teen safe as they explore the new world of teen life.
  • Learn how to teen-proof your home and cell-proof your teen
Sexting. Texting and Social Networking: What’s A Parent To Do? 
  • Understand how the “emotional brain” of a teen gets “turned on” by social networking.
  • Understand how the “Imaginary Audience” influences your teen’s performing on social media.
  • Learn which apps are safe and unsafe
  • Learn strategies to monitor and set limits around phone and internet use
  • Learn how your own behavior with phones and computers can positively and negatively influence your teen.
Drugs and Alcohol: How Does Your Teen’s Personality Style, and Your Parenting Style impact their experimentation with drugs and alcohol? 
  • Identify your teen’s personality style and risk-factors with drugs and alcohol
  • Identify your parenting style and how it influences your teen’s drug and alcohol use
  • Learn effective strategies and scripts to keep your teen safe
College Bound:
  • Understand the emotional journey of your college bound high school student
  • Understand the emotional journey of a parent of college bound high school student
  • Learn strategies for making this process successful and positive
With over 40 years of experience working with families, Joani’s approach, using humor, storytelling and easy to use tools make the job of parenting just a little bit easier.
Joani Geltman MSW     781-910-1770    joanigeltman.com